Things that have changed about me since I got married.

Good Morning Friend, how are you? How has your week been going? Mine is busy. Sometimes when life is busy, it makes me more reflective and reflects on what going on around me. If you didn’t know this about me, I got engaged to Jman in December. It was 2009 on Christmas eve. Jman picked a beautiful amethyst stone surrounded by two diamonds. It was exactly what I wanted for a ring, and Jman proposed on a beach in Monterey. It was a perfect day. 2010 became a busy year with wedding planning, graduating from college, and starting a life together.

Next year we will be celebrating our tenth anniversary.

Since I got married, some things have changed about me.

I am a romantic; I believe in happily ever after and that there is a person for everyone. I saw a shirt that says I have more OTP (one true pair) than friends. This is true. However, something that I realized throughout this year is how wonderful these fictional characters, to see couples that I shipped. Still together even after the finale of a season or an end of a movie. I also realized how nice it is to see couples that are still happily married. I didn’t know how this became a worry point for myself. After a movie or a finale, I worry about if the couple stayed together. Seeing fictional couples who are still tackling life together and even in love with each other is impressive. As a married woman, it’s reassuring for myself and Jman that there are couples who are like us. Happily ever after is wonderful but show us real marriages.

I used to pack my schedule full of everything and try to do every event church and be busy all the time. And if I weren’t doing things, I would get mad at myself. However, I now understand how important sometimes doing nothing is just as important. Some days are just reading/writing while Jman plays video games. And we take a day where we relax and breathe.

Another change, I know the true meaning of relationships. A relationship takes works, requires devotion and sacrifice, and, most importantly, forgiveness. And teasing about divorce doesn’t solve anything. Trust is essential, and communication. Sometimes it is as easy watching the moon other times I need to remind myself that two people live here, and we need to work together to help things run smoothly. 

I feel like I am a little braver since being married. I stand up for others and share more of my heart with others. A lot of that stems from Jman being in my corner and supportive of me. I’ve learned from him that it’s okay to share what on my heart and live in the world not set apart from it.

“Praise the Lord, the God of Israel, because he has visited and redeemed his people. He has sent us a mighty Savior from the royal line of his servant David, just as he promised through his holy prophets long ago.

Luke 1:68-70

TTFN and God Bless you and Keep you

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