Good Morning friends, I celebrated my 10 anniversary with Jman on Friday, September 18th. Some days its feels like 20 years and other times I remember the day clearly as yesterday. We celebrated by ordering in, getting our favorite cupcakes, getting champagne, and just relaxing and being together. As we had trips planned and other things planned however with COVID, all those plans got rescheduled this year.

Being married 10 years is such an accomplishment and I wanted to share some things we have learned.

We are partners. Partners, Even though I believe Jman is the head of our family, he consults with me. We rarely make a decision that the other is not involved in. We rarely take trips away from each other and often say if you are going I am going. We are equals. We don’t compare salaries, we don’t say one is more important than the other, we are partners.

We try not to throw grenades at each other. Now I’m not saying we are collecting grenades, what I mean is we try not to throw each other’s weaknesses at each other. We try not to blame the other. We acknowledge that sometimes when a mistake happens or an argument we are both at fault. So we both apologize. And we both forgive. 

We are similar but also different. And that’s okay. He likes football, I don’t. I like period pieces and watching movies and Jman would prefer to watch youtube. Jman likes museums and I like parks and zoos. We have things that we are similar such as our love for superheroes, we believe the same things. We acknowledge the differences and similarities which make us unique as a couple. 

We pray for each other. Jman is usually the first person I reach out to for prayer requests. Not just for work problems, I pray for both of our attitudes. I pray for our conversations. I pray for our days. I say thank you for Jman every single day. 

We don’t keep secrets from each other. I know I’ve said this before but this is something that we strive to be honest with each other even when its a personal issue. 

Our marriage has rules: We don’t tease about divorce, we try not to blame the other, we strive to take trips together. We accept nos and stops. Everything is equal. We share the tv and know that each us of need our times to relax. 

We consult our parents but also know that we get to make the decisions. We are in our unit. 

Respect and love are important in a marriage. Also active listening. Not stuffing feelings and keeping a pulse on the temperature of our marriage is important. We say we love each other even when we are upset with the other. We also acknowledge our mistakes.

Family is important. And when we plan trips we try to do things that each person will like. 

We plan. We dream and when its tough to see the future we acknowledge when we are struggling. 

We strive to be easy going with each other. We know that sometimes getting upset is not worth the reaction.

The phrase we use all the time is we will figure it out. Throughout our marriage, we have had ups and downs and I can’t tell you how many times we have said We will figure it out. And often through lots of prayer and communication and sometimes being okay with failing and trying again. We do figure it out. God grants us wisdom and we figure it out. Or we let it go and then we figure it out.

2 Corinthians 13:14

New Living Translation

14 [a]May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.

TTFN and God Bless and Keep You.